Phone Sex has long been a go-to for long-distance relationships. But it can also be a fun way to try out some of your wilder fantasies with a new partner or a hookup.

But before you start talking dirty, you should make sure that your partner is on board. Here are some tips from experts on how to do just that.

Get Ready

If you’re in a long-distance relationship and want to spice up your relationship, or simply try a new form of foreplay with a crush, phone sex can be a great way to get intimate. However, it’s important to remember that you need to get consent from your partner before getting into a sexy phone call. Here are some expert tips to help you get ready for your first Phone Sex session:

1. Think about what turns you on.

If you’re not used to discussing sexy fantasies with your partner, it can be challenging to communicate them over the phone. To help you prepare, think about what you like to talk about—like books, songs and TV shows that put you in the mood—before attempting a Phone Sex session. This will give you an idea of how to steer the conversation into a more sexy direction.

2. Dress to impress.

Depending on the type of phone sex you have in mind, it can be helpful to dress up for the occasion. This can make you feel sexier over the phone and inspire you to get even more physical. If you’re role-playing, it can also be fun to change your voice. But be careful not to go too overboard—it can become distracting for your partner.

You can also use toys over the phone to add an extra sensual element to your session. “They stimulate more areas of the body, increase orgasms and help you stay focused on what you’re doing,” says Mahalli.

Set the Mood

Phone sex can feel awkward and intimidating, especially if you’re not sure what to say or how to progress the conversation. But you shouldn’t let that fear keep you from trying, Mahalli says. “Push yourself to try and vocalize your pleasure as much as you can over the phone,” she says, which includes using erotic vocabulary to describe what you want to do (or would like them to do) to your boo. Try saying things like “thrust,” “suck,” and “lick” to get your horny juices flowing. And don’t be afraid to use toys over the phone, either. Whether you’re just starting out or are experienced in phone sex, having some sort of orgasm-inducing toy can boost your mood and help you feel more confident in your sexual abilities over the phone.

You should also start with slow foreplay, says sex expert Jess O’Reilly. Just because you’re on the phone doesn’t mean you have to go full porn star right away—you can dangle the possibility of kisses or oral sex and use active verbs, such as “suck,” “twist,” and “pull.”

It’s also important to set clear boundaries early. That could look like a really frank chat where you straight-up ask for consent, or it might be as simple as letting your partner know that you’d like to keep the conversation sexy over the phone, and asking them if they’re OK with that.

Talk About It

Phone sex is all about communication, and for many people that’s the most intimidating part. But the good news is, you don’t have to be an expert in erotic vocabulary to talk dirty. The most important thing is to make sure your boo is into the idea before you even pick up the phone.

If they are, then getting started is as easy as a simple chat about their sexual interests and what kind of pleasures turn them on. “You can also ask them what they want to do to you, or you can start by saying things like ‘I have this memory from when we were together, and I just really want to get up close to you, and touch you in all the right places,'” LMFT and AASECT-certified sex therapist Lori Michels tells SELF.

To practice your sexy speech, you can read erotic novels or poems, listen to sexy music on the phone, or try using video-calling apps (Skype, FaceTime, Viber) to incorporate images into the call. Just make sure the images aren’t distracting or abrasive.

You can also ask your boo to lick their lips and sniff them and use a deep husky voice. And don’t be afraid to break out your favorite sex toys, which can make the call even more intense and orgasmic!

Get Involved

Phone sex isn’t just about a couple of dynamite lines (although a quick look at the Bad Girls Bible would definitely help). It’s about being able to paint a clear picture for your man. If he can feel like he’s in the room with you when you talk, it will make him much more likely to be eager to do phone sex again.

If you’re new to this kind of thing, it can be tricky to get into a sexual conversation with your partner via phone, especially when the two of you live far apart. Depending on how horny your partner is, you can try a little foreplay to get the ball rolling, such as telling them that you’ve been thinking about them all day and that you’re in the mood for a good time.

You can also try describing a fantasy that’s a little more erotic, Michels suggests. She says that this can be a great way to get the other person in character and let their imaginations run wild.

It may be helpful to have a list of words and phrases that turn your partner on, as well as a few fantasies that you’re especially into. Having prepared lines that you can pull out when the moment strikes will keep your conversation feeling more authentic.